Hoong Yang: In control, out of control.

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As parents and teachers we look forward to our children to become happy, fulfilled individuals who will grow through life's challenges and who feel good about themselves and their lives. In the process we tend to unintentionally 'take control' of their lives very often in a very oppressed manner. Daily, parent and teachers expressed that their children are 'out of control' and do not know what to do next. In actual sense, the moment adults express 'out of control' they have already long ' lost it'. Being in control is actually an illusion or appearance whereby adults pushed down their feelings onto the children. And these feelings were the manifestation of their own childhood experiences which may be very much been

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oppressed. If such confrontation persist, the adults and children will be drained to the extend that there will be not much left between them.Children learn from what we model and we model what we learned as children.If we hope to give children the gift of a happy, responsible, fully alive adulthood, we must first live that way ourselves.When we talk of 'control', we mean control feelings and emotions which is impossible for any adults to do, onto any children. Feelings and emotions are who the children actually are.It cannot be get through with, get over, get past or get away from.It is part of children.